The biggest problem with modern romance is the illusion of choice. Dating websites and dating applications have made it so easy to find people that no one is willing to compromise anymore. Don’t like how someone’s nose looks? Back to Tinder. Don’t like how they didn’t reach for the cheque immediately? Back to eHarmony. People are willing to throw decade long relationships in the trash for a chance to find someone new who fits every single one of their boxes.
And it doesn’t stop there. Our generation gets bored so easily. A friend of mine ended his 4 year relationship with his girlfriend because he was getting bored of being with the same person for so long. He literally ended it because he was bored, and I hope I’m not the only person who thinks that that is ridiculous. And it relates back to having this illusion of choice. I’ve seen many great relationships fall apart because the parties involved wanted to date other people just because they know they can. Just because a new person is a swipe away for them. People are so afraid of settling for less nowadays that they choose not to settle at all. No one is willing to build with someone anymore. Everyone wants instant happiness.
I remember when I was in my first relationship. My girlfriend told me she loved me after three months, and I remember thinking, no you don’t. I remember thinking there was no way she could love me after three months. Love doesn’t work that fast. She didn’t even properly know me. How could she possibly love me? It bothered me but that’s how fast people work nowadays. Sex after the first date. I love you’s after three months. And then cue the breakup after six.
What a time to be alive.